Until recently I’ve never been sure if I was into gaining. Fat admiration absolutely, but despite being quite hefty myself (Over 280) gaining/feedism has always been a field I wasn’t too sure about. Recently though I’ve been getting more and more into it for one reason.
A bit more than a year ago I got into a relationship with a wonderful man who I love very much. In addition to being all around sweet, kind, silly and having a lot of similar interests, he is also pretty fat. (Around 300 pounds) While it’s not the primary reason I love him, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t appreciate that he’s damn sexy. Recently, however, I’ve begun to get the desire to see both him and myself gain.
Thing is, he’s not a gainer and I don’t know if he’s satisfied with himself currently. He knows I like his size and is completely fine with it, but has mentioned before in passing that he still feels self-conscious about his weight not just for appearance but for health reasons. (I know that there’s not an inherent correlation between weight and health, but he’s not so convinced)
This is what makes me afraid to come out to him with this information; he wants to be healthy (Which I fully encourage; wanna have him around for a while after all, and you can absolutely be fat and healthy) but I would be telling him that I want him to do something that’s basically the antithesis of that as far as contemporary society is concerned. I don’t feel it’ll create a permanent rift between us, but I feel like he would look at me strangely for a while and perhaps even feel bad about himself.
Maybe someday I’ll work up the courage to tell him, but for now I’ll just have to live with it. It’s by no means bad; I still have a very attractive boyfriend with a wonderful personality who I might even end up marrying someday. If I don’t get to satisfy a minor fetish/fantasy then that’s just too bad, because I’d rather have a wonderful man like him. Part of me isn’t sure I even want it all the time because I do love him as he is and changing him both in appearance and personality seems strange to me.
Still… I can’t help but occasionally think about what our lives would be like if I did come out to him. Maybe he’d react poorly… but maybe he’d embrace it. I just sit back sometimes and imagine us feeding each other happily, playing with each others’ bellies, burping playfully and just taking pride in our gluttony. I wonder what we’d look like with another 20 pounds on our bodies… or 50… or 200…
Oh well, only time will tell. Whatever happens will happen for the best. For now I’ll just have to be conflicted.
It bothers me when dudes get creepy in this community. Like, don’t call someone a fat sexy pig or something unless that person specifically wants you to leave stuff like that in their comment box (or wherever). There’s a way to give positive feedback and not sound like it’s all about your sexual desires. There’s a way to compliment someone’s appearance without sounding like a creepy disrespectful shit. In addition to being disrespectful to the women submitting their bodies, it makes even the best of men look worse. As a male feminist who loves bigger women, I take it personally.
I’m gaining again and have found a very lean young man to be my encourager. I’ve been a gainer on and off now for a long time. I like being at the peak of my fatness and for the most part now, being the fattest man in the room. (In most places I go these days.) But I do very much enjoy being fattened by a lean man.
The encourager I am seeing is very lean and experienced, very experienced. I am looking forward with some apprehension to getting so fat that I become scared. Yes, so fat that I become scared, and he keeps feeding me, and I keep eating. Does anyone else desire this? I do desire it, even though I know the likely ending. The people who climb Mt. Everest know the dangers, but the ones who climb are driven by desire.
Also I very much enjoy playing with my growing fat.
My boyfriend is determined to lose weight. I want to be supportive but it’s so hard when I know I can’t truly be sexually satisfied with a thin guy. I feel stuck and ashamed for being close-minded even though i know I can’t help it. Ugh.
I told my girlfriend that a bunch of fast food joints were going to start delivering on campus next semester and she said she is going to get so fat and need to get giant men’s sweat pants. The problem is she doesn’t want to, but never tries to stop herself. I wish she’d make up her mind because I love her to death regardless of weight.
so im a lesbian and i have a lesbian friend and recently we both were dumped by our partners, but ive always looked at her and just thought she was so beautiful in every way, she’s kinda big so clothes dont fit the way they do on most people, but it strains against her body and i love it. the problem for me is that i still have feelings for my ex, and im developing feelings for her. im literally in a self created love triangle
I cannot describe my love for big, fluffy girls in big, fuzzy sweaters <3
Sometimes i think its hard to find someone with the same interest in gaining in mexico, where being fat is frowned upon in upper class levels, i can never seem to find anyone with the same interests.
When i think of this i think on giving up feederism entirely
Welp concerning the last confession…
I am a type 1 diabetic.
I want to be a feeder/feedee/gainer
Well i am in the process of gaining.
So that is already happening.
I over eat meals constantly and have more when everyone isn’t looking.
I have always wanted someone to help me, encourage me to continue with this and not only accept me but understand my urges and feelings of what i want to do.
I know the risks and I do not care I will be fat and i will one day die, there’s nothing anyone can do about that.
I love to gorge myself on food. The thing is I cant, I’m a diabetic :(
My ex girlfriend was always sympathetic and let me feed her and get off on her tummy bulging as I rubbed it.
Well we broke up half a year ago.